Confidence Blog

When you want to learn something quickly or to get proficient at something fast, you simply practise doing that thing over and over again.

For example, if you want to improve your sales presentation skills, do more presentations. Similarly, if you want to become more competent on cold sales, then pick up the phone and do more sales calls.

Through repetition you become more confident and courageous, more knowledgeable and skilful. Nothing even comes close to the power and benefit of repetition.

How do you think you got very good at your job? How did you learn the route from home to the office? How did you get good at making presentations or meeting people, or anything? It’s through the power of repetition.

When you practise anything every day, you’ll get so skilled at it, it becomes automatic. If you drive a car, you don’t consciously change gears, do you? You simply reach out with your left hand and change gears. You don’t think about it. You just go ahead and do it. Automatically.

Remember this when you begin to feel irritated or discouraged at your lack of ability when trying to do something new.

Substitute helplessness with the desire to practise.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

I read this somewhere; “You don’t choose the things you believe in, they choose you.”

In many ways, that statement can be true; that our circumstances may very well choose or dictate our beliefs.

If you compare a person who has grown up with supportive parents with someone who has uncaring parents, do you suppose the two will have similar beliefs? I doubt it.

Yet, it certainly doesn’t mean that they both cannot be highly successful. Sure they can, so long as they are driven by their desire and passion to be successful.

Old limiting beliefs can be changed. The person who has unsupportive and uncaring parents can learn to take full control of and change all his beliefs.

He can develop the most empowering beliefs and be highly optimistic about a bright future, when he makes that decision to direct and focus his thoughts, his new thoughts, on what he wants to achieve in life.

He can learn to release his past obstructive beliefs, and create and develop new supportive and encouraging ones that support him in reaching all his dreams and desires.

Yes, circumstances can create our beliefs, especially when we are young and vulnerable. But we do have the power to change the negative, limiting beliefs into empowering and supportive beliefs so we may live the life that we choose to have.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

There are many people around the world who are living the life of their dreams. In fact there are millions.

I have achieved quite a few dreams of my own and I am working on some more.

Anyone and everyone has the potential to live the life of their dreams. It is possible, and it has been proven time and time again.

The dreams do not have to be huge, like those achieved by Bill Gates and others.
They can be marrying the person of your dreams, having the dream job, going on a dream vacation, living a healthier life, starting a small home business.

One of my dreams was to write a book. I accomplished that dream. I co-authored a book on self-confidence with Natalie Dee.

Every day new people achieve or live their dreams. Why not you?

Make a commitment, a decision that you want to improve on your life. Then make a plan on how you are to achieve that dream. The plan does not have to be so detailed, it can be small steps that can be built on as the days, weeks or months go by.

Once you have made that plan, implement it. Take action. A plan is just a plan, something quite insignificant until it is followed by action. The key to turning any dreams, your dreams into reality, is by taking action, preferably every day.

Join the people who are living their dreams. Why not? Decide that you want to improve, develop a plan and act on it.

Millions all over the world are living their dreams. Why not you?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

Yes. Getting what you want is success.

What you want doesn’t have to be a big yacht, a Ferrari, or a luxury cruise around the world. Success can be saving enough money to go on a summer holiday, to buy yourself a bicycle, to see your child participate in a school play, to make a big sale, to meet your budget or target.

That is success. I see success as communicating with confidence.

When you communicate with confidence you have a great, happy and adventurous summer vacation. You communicate infectious confidence when your child is on stage in a school play, you communicate and radiate confidence when you make that sales presentation.

Success is within you. Success in life is becoming what you want to be, and you can become what you want to be. Let confidence take the lead role in getting you what it is that you want. Start off by becoming a great communicator.

Practise communicating with confidence. Begin by talking more to people you know and progress to talking to people you don’t know at all. In no time, you will easily, happily and confidently approach any one. You will strike up a conversation comfortably and confidently.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

One very effective way for you to increase your self confidence is to first identify what is holding you back. Is it fear of failure, fear of rejection?

The second step is for you find ways to physically feel that fear, even in small ways. Go through the motions; the nervousness, the shaky hands, the thousands of butterflies flying around in your stomach. Get uncomfortable!

A client of Natalie wanted to set up a business selling conference space. He had extensive hotel conference and banqueting experience behind him, yet when it came for him to venture out alone, many fears and anxieties had surfaced.

Natalie’s suggestion was for him to tackle one fear one step at a time, no matter how big or small it may seem at the time. And to work on it until that fear had become either a thing of the past or it had been reduced to a point where it is virtually insignificant.

For him to increase his confidence he had to take risks. He had to experience the blocks, the fears one by one. This way he would gain more skill, knowledge and develop his strengths and, more importantly, increase his self confidence.

You can increase your self confidence by focusing on what you fear, and then overcome that fear. Have belief that you can succeed and push ahead. The fears that crop up along the way are fabulous opportunities to gain more strength and increase your confidence level.

If you want to start up a business, as in the example above, but are scared to do so, identify what fears are standing in your way and tackle them one by one. Remember to praise yourself along the way for having the courage to face those fears and anxieties, and reward yourself for every increment, for every increase to your self confidence.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.