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“Oh my word, I have been lumbered with making a Health and Safety presentation to my department. I’ve never done this before, and I can’t get out of it. Help!” Elaine said anxiously as she took off her coat, brushing past me.

Elaine’s like that.

So not wasting time, I asked her, “How would you rate your self-confidence, where 1 is totally confident and 10 is whoa, no confidence at all.”

I think you guessed it; she went for a full 10. No surprises there.

In her anxiety, Elaine had forgotten a particular technique that I taught her a few sessions ago, that she can use at will to raise her self-confidence level, and allow her to make a fantastic presentation.

We went over it again: divide a paper into two columns; in the left column jot down why she feels unconfident about the event. In the other column, write down the first thought that comes to her mind as to how she would like to feel for each reason she felt uneasy.

I watched as her mind started ticking over, searching for the rest of the technique. So I continued, “As far in advance of the presentation as possible, pick one obstacle with its counter feeling…”

“Oh, yeah, and find a quiet place where I will not be disturbed for approximately five minutes,” Eileen interrupted. “I remember now. The idea is for me to imagine how I would like to act and feel when making the presentation. I am to imagine me feeling calm and confident, right?”

Correct.

“Continue to work down your entire list. Imagine being confident. As the presentation gets closer, you will feel yourself becoming more confident.”

“And on the day of the event, I fly through it with complete assurance and confidence. I remember it now. I don’t know what I was so nervous about. Silly me!” she finished.

Let me just throw in this bit: it’s important to remember that repetition is the mother of all skill. When you use your imagination to tackle any area where you feel you lack self-confidence, use this method as often as possible, preferably twice daily, until you achieve the results you want.

How much do you value yourself to spend 5 minutes twice a day imagining your own success?

Oh, by the way. I called Elaine to check how she did. And wouldn’t you know it: “I blew them away!” was her response.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

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All great leaders have one particular great quality that, perhaps, stands out further than the others, and that is: they all have a vision. Their vision could vary and be as wide spread as from leading a company expansion or merger to creating a happy home environment.

A CEO from a well-established company has lead the expansion of his own company three times within a few years of its establishment. Yet he constantly faced a lack of leadership in his ability to create magic moments with his two young children.

On his way home, after our third and most mind-storming session, a thought suddenly came to him. He immediately put down the newspaper and reflected on that thought: I learned to be a leader because I was quick to realise and accept that every challenge had presented me with an opportunity to grow.

From that moment, a personal vision came to effect. And that was to commit to lead and spend at least one high quality hour with his children every night, no matter what.

If you were to take the lead to improve on the quality of your life, what one action are you prepared to commit to for the coming three months?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

Many people experience difficulties in life and keep on struggling to make ends meet. The mind gets filled with negative thoughts and the temptation to quit becomes a welcome sight.

Mike was not moving ahead in life. He would start a project from home with the idea of making enough money to leave the job he hates. After a few weeks he gives up on the project. He has done this about six or seven times.

I asked him to spend the time necessary find a project that he thoroughly enjoyed doing; one that perhaps matched his talents, skills, strengths or deep interest. And then I asked him to make two lists; one to identify what he enjoys about it and the second to list what he doesn’t enjoy.

The good list of what he enjoys, I am happy to say, was much longer. He finally identified a project that he might continue with, where the potential of quitting was highly reduced.

Next, I asked him to scour the internet, go to book stores and his local library, and read about as many successful people who have achieved success from the same business as his.

“Learn from them all that you can. Learn how they challenged obstacles and setbacks and what they did to overcome them. If they managed to be a success, so can you.”

The big lesson here is to learn from other people. Follow the strategies that they did to achieve success.

If you wanted to achieve success in a particular area of your life, what would that area be? And whose strategies would you apply?

Hani Al-Qasem

For more information on how to have a meaningful life and to expand your personal capacity for happiness and success, visit: http://www.insight4you.com

Hani Al-Qasem is a self-improvement expert. He co-authored the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.” Go to the website above now and download your FREE copy of the e-book and start today to change your life for the better.

To achieve more and to be a high performer, you would want to be both active and highly productive in all that you do.

You can save yourself a lot of time and effort, and avoid the trial and error method, simply by learning from others who had achieved bigger results in the same field as yours.

By learning what other successful people did, and by adopting their methods into your life you, too, can achieve similar success.

I encouraged one of my clients to leisurely read as many biographies of highly successful people as she could. She might find the biographies pleasurable to read and she might also find them truly inspiring and motivating.

Having read a few such books, this client was surprised to learn that even though they were highly successful people, they still constantly looked for ways to improve the quality of their lives.

They still invested a huge amount of their time discovering and considering ways to be even more effective and productive in the service that they provide.

Constant and never-ending improvement! A great value worth importing into your life!

If you were to read a biography of a highly successful person in your field, whose biography would you read?

Hani Al-Qasem

For more information on how to have a meaningful life and to expand your personal capacity for happiness and success, visit: http://www.insight4you.com

Hani Al-Qasem is a self-improvement expert. He co-authored the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.” Go to the website above now and download your FREE copy of the e-book and start today to change your life for the better.

As I turned the door handle, she burst into my office, her head down shaking in disbelief, repeating the same question over and over again: “What was I thinking? I can’t believe I did that.”

“Did what?” I asked.

On the spur of the moment this debonair, well-spoken executive leapt out of her black leather chair and stormed into her boss’s office at 5:30pm, demanded a raise and left the building.

On the spur of the moment, on impulse, without thinking.

Most of us have done something in our lives that we later question. Yet, who do we question? Who do we blame, or thank, for our actions? We hold our spontaneous or consciously deliberate thoughts accountable for our emotions and behaviour.

Everything begins with a thought. Our thoughts, our reflections, direct the lives that we lead. Our thoughts can drive us to fulfil our dreams.

If you were to change the thought “if only” to “next time” for a day or so, what new opportunities will open for you?

By the way – she got the raise!

Hani Al-Qasem

For more information on how to have a meaningful life and to expand your personal capacity for happiness and success, visit: http://www.insight4you.com

Hani Al-Qasem is a self-improvement expert. He co-authored the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.” Go to the website above now and download your FREE copy of the e-book and start today to change your life for the better.