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Do you find that you are struggling to achieve an aspiration, an objective or a goal? Have you been diligently working at that particular goal for a while now and not making any significant progress?

I used to be like that and then I made an amazing discovery. One that made me think in a different way every waking moment, one that made me realise why I haven’t been able to achieve most of my goals in spite of my working hard and meticulously towards them.

That discovery did not come about by chance. After a long while of working hard, working smart, working long hours towards one of my goals and not achieving it, I decided to ask myself, over and over again the question, What do I have to do to achieve my goal?

I presume by the process of the Law of Attraction, I come across the word ‘beliefs’ in a book I was reading, and that word stuck out like a sore thumb and for some reason I was incapable of getting it out of my mind.

It wasn’t that long before I uncovered the truth.

I realised that for me to achieve my goal I needed to first identify my core beliefs about that goal; find out which ones were in line with my goal and which ones weren’t.

You see, if my beliefs were in alignment, my journey to achieving that goal would have received much less resistance. However, if my beliefs were not in alignment my goal, it would be highly unlikely that I would achieve it.

Those beliefs that were not in alignment are my limiting beliefs, my sabotaging beliefs. They are the ones that would stop me cold, dead in my tracks. They would not allow me to achieve my goal. There would be times while on the journey where I might think I was making some headway, but in the long run, I was not progressing as much as I wanted to.

It was only after I identified, challenged and eliminated the limiting beliefs and had them working with me as opposed to against me did I achieve the goal that I had wanted.

So what does this story of mine have anything to do with you?

If you are also struggling, not progressing or progressing extremely slowly in living the life that you want, or painfully not heading in the right direction to manifest the goal that you want, you must first identify what is holding you back; single out all your limiting beliefs in that particular area.

How?

Say you want to have high self confidence whilst giving a marketing presentation. Say to yourself, “I am going to give the best presentation of my life next week.” Then notice and write all the “Yeah, but…” or “No way. You’re going to stutter all the way through” or “You’ll be a nervous wreck.”

Write every single one of them down.

These are your limiting, self sabotaging beliefs. They are the ones that are holding you back. They are the beliefs that keep you from getting any closer to your goal or goals.

Now that you have written them down – each and every one of them – you will then need to tackle them, again each and every one of them. You will have to replace them with powerful self enhancing beliefs. Ones that support what you are seeking.

Admittedly, it’s not an easy thing to do. You will really have to pay close attention to your core beliefs. Listen up very attentively to the “Yeah, but…” as they surface. Always carry a small pad and pen, whenever a limiting belief crops up immediately write it down. When you get home, add it to the list of sabotaging, negative beliefs that you will work on.

The big question is, How do you change or eliminate your limiting, negative and sabotaging beliefs?

An extremely powerful method I found is laughing them off, one by one, or blowing each limiting belief out of proportion, so much so that it becomes so laughable and ridiculous that it will not happen.

Again, laugh them off.

Find out more about how limiting beliefs hinder your success and happiness, and how you can laugh them off by downloading my free e-book Establish Powerful Self-Enhancing Beliefs and start eliminating your limiting, self sabotaging beliefs and get on the road to fulfilment.

Hani Al-Qasem is a published author and personal growth specialist. He co-authored Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps and Establish Powerful Self-Enhancing Beliefs.

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