Confidence Blog

Linda hated social events. She found them frightening and felt that all eyes were on her from the minute she walked into the room. The glaring eyes squinted, scrutinising her inch by inch, from top to bottom, seeing through her skin and into her deep feelings, her feeling of low self confidence.

Here is how Linda recalled how she changed her self-identity from being scared in social situations, to being confident and at ease in any social setting by changing only one small thing in her life:

“I used to really hate going to work social events and family get-togethers; especially my husband’s family Sunday lunches. Even though I’d been married for over ten years and knew his family for a long time, I still felt awkward and out of place.

In both situations it seemed to me that everyone was laughing and having a great time, easily mixing and mingling with both people they know and didn’t know. Oh, how I envied them!

I always felt embarrassed and uncomfortable in these situations. I felt wide eyes examining me, dissecting me, looking through my shield of having no self confidence.

I used to shake nervously as I stood quietly in a corner somewhere, on my own. My cramped uneasiness probably showed from the tense look on my face. I would look down and avoid catching someone’s glaring eyes.

At work events, I would stick close to someone I knew well for the duration of the event, subtly looking at my watch from time to time counting the minutes until it would be appropriate for me to leave and go home.

When I learned about confidence building methods and how one small change can have a knock-on effect on many areas in my life, I decided to have a go and I do one thing differently that I haven’t done before.

I decided to walk into a social situation alone, with a magnetic and contagious smile on my face, shoulders upright and my head held high and to make eye contact and say, “Hello” to anyone who so much as looked over at me. I would simply pretend that I am feeling very confident.

I had no idea what impact this small change in my expression and posture would have on my experience. But I can tell you that I have never been the same since.

I now easily approach people and strike up a conversation. And, likewise, people come over and talk to me. I smile and laugh more as the conversation grows. This makes me feel happier, more confident and more at ease.

Since then, I have used this simple method of making one little change in a single area of my life to initiate lots of other changes. This has really given me a confidence boost in so many ways, and in so many areas that I feel like a changed person already.”

By the way, this could be you. You could easily be the Linda in the story.
Believe that you can have self confidence in one area, in one part of any area and build on it, one step at a time.

You can do it… Linda!

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Hani Al-Qasem is a published author and personal growth specialist. He co-authored Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps and Establish Powerful Self-Enhancing Beliefs.

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