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Low self confidence can stand in your way just when you need it most; where you cannot be at your best, where you start to stumble or stutter, where you start looking down at your shoes, where you fidget or turn away and walk back into your limited comfort zone.

Well, I have great news for you!

Feeling and becoming confident quickly, almost instantaneously, is possible, and you can do it. With repetition and continued practise within a short period of time you will have all the confidence that you ever wanted; you can have supreme, unlimited self confidence.

Here are two powerful ways to get you started. They will help you gain self confidence and make you feel better about yourself quickly:

1. Do something you are good at

When you do something that you are competent and proficient at, you will quickly feel the surge of self confidence that comes with the feeling behind your skill and talent.

What are you great at? Painting, writing, cooking, jogging, holding parties and conferences, perhaps gardening. What is your strongest talent or skill? Once you have indentified what you feel awesome at, think deep how that strength makes you feel. Allow that self confidence to flow through your entire body.

Keep focused on those feelings. And when you feel that you are ready think about the situation or event you do not feel comfortable about and transfer the confident feelings into that situation.

Feel yourself being more competent, courageous and confident as you tackle that situation. At your peak of confidence say three times, ‘Yes, that’s me!’ and notice how much more confident you have become.

Do that technique daily or as often as you can so as to strengthen it.

2. Remember all the things you have accomplished

This technique is an extension of the one above. Get yourself a note pad and jot down as many accomplishments that you can remember; particularly write the ones that you thought were going to be hard, but ended up being rather easy, or easier than you had anticipated.

Here are a few examples: any exams that you passed despite thinking that you wouldn’t; or an important meeting that you chaired with greater ease and confidence than you expected; hosted a party for your child that you never thought you could pull off. Think of as many scenarios as you can remember.

The idea here is to use these successful memories as points of reference. You thought you would never achieve them and yet you did. What does that tell you? It tells you that you have more self confidence that you think you have.

Combine the two strategies together and you have the ingredients to be a confident winner. Reinforce them with repetition and in due course nothing can stop you doing whatever you want or desire.

Hani Al-Qasem

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Many people are under the impression that everyone except themselves has self confidence. They believe they are the unlucky ones, the doomed ones, so they sluggishly walk around day in and day out mesmerised with the thought that the happy and successful people, commonly known as ‘the others’, were born with self confidence.

Well, that simply is not the case. Did you know that rich and successful people were not born with self confidence?

They had to foster, develop and build on their self confidence. And they kept practising and building on that self confidence until they gained unstoppable momentum to the point where they have become extremely confident.

They had to work daily, consistently and persistently to plant the confidence seed, nurture it and shape it in a particular area. High achievers, successful and rich people had to learn the strategies to raising self esteem, attaining courage, growing and nurturing self confidence.

It is important for you to realise that, in much the same way that they had learned self confidence, you, too, can learn it; if you really want to. And the great thing about that is you can do so in much the same way as when you learned to drive a car, cook, play tennis or make a cold sales call.

You might have lacked self confidence to start with, but, with practise and repetition your self confidence grew. Your first driving lesson might have been troublesome. Your second less troublesome, and as you progressed on to the fourth and fifth your self confidence would be growing, gaining momentum lesson after lesson.

It’s the same with many aspects in life. Whenever you start something new, you will probably lack a certain amount of self confidence. In time, that confidence will grow and you will have unstoppable confidence.

Many successful people were school drop-outs, shy, introverts, some totally withdrawn, yet they managed to step out of that limiting comfort zone and tackle what has held them back from success; they went for a stroll outside their comfort zone, one stride at a time, each stride building on the other, each stride of confidence building on the other.

In due course, not only did they have all the self confidence that they want, they became confident. It became a part of their being.

Self confidence boils down to how you think and feel about yourself. It is an emotional feeling that can drive your beliefs to allow you to do all that you want. Confidence lets you achieve your true potential, to accomplish all that you desire.

Remember, you can learn to have all the confidence you need the same way that others did. You can have unlimited, unstoppable self confidence, and the simplest and quickest way to kick-start self confidence is for you to accept the fact that self confidence is an acquired process and can be learned.

This is a crucial starting point. Believe that and you’re away off from the starting blocks. For you to gain self confidence you need to believe that you can learn to have all the self confidence that you want.

Hani Al-Qasem

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Hani Al-Qasem is a published author and personal growth specialist. He co-authored Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps and Establish Powerful Self-Enhancing Beliefs