Confidence Blog

I have one particular friend who is very shy in some situations, yet, funnily enough, full of self confidence in others.

Yes that can happen, and it does to quite a lot of people. I know, I’ve been there myself.

Below is a little exercise I asked him to do that I would like to share with you. Try it out and see if it works for you. Who knows, it might:

When you are in the company of people, instead of hiding behind the drink you have in your hand, ask the people you are with ‘one line’ questions, in other words really short and simple questions. You can easily rehearse these questions on the way to the event.

For example, “So, what do you do?” or “How did you hear about this event?” or “What did you think of the speech?”

People love to talk about themselves. Listen closely to what they say when they answer, and expand on their answers by asking another ‘one line’ question. Gradually you will loosen up and the rest of the evening will flow with greater ease.

By focusing on what they are saying you will become less conscious of yourself, and before you know it, you will be buying the next round of drinks for your newly found friends!

Hani Al-Qasem

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Hani Al-Qasem is a published author and personal growth specialist. He co-authored the book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”