Many people live a habitual life: always taking the same route to work or to the shops, getting dressed in the same order or going to the same resort for their holidays year after year.
What about the other habits, those that make up who some people are: always a cigarette with a cup of coffee, too shy to attend social events, not courageous enough to ask a person on a date.
A mother, who worked as an executive in the financial district of London, said: “I want to be confident enough to make something more out of my life. Yet I have a habit of running away from opportunities that I know would really benefit me. Can I change this habit?”
We create our habits because we are creatures of habit. And we can change our habits to better our life.
Following a number of sessions with an executive coach, the mother began to see a number of small opportunities; these were her own, they were her ideas that she was happy to incorporate, and as time went by, she used these to build her confidence.
The small opportunities became small successes and she built on the confidence gained from these to start exploring and taking on board larger and more challenging ones. In this way, she naturally integrated new habits into her way of life.
Get into the routine of changing your old habits by making one small change every day, large or small. The possibility for change is always there, every moment of every day.
Create and practise habits that support how you want to be, and notice how new doors of opportunities begin to open.
If there is a habit that is not allowing you to make an improvement in your life, what would that habit be?
Hani Al-Qasem
Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”
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