Confidence Blog

To obtain and retain a peak level of performance in the long term, it is not enough to have a balance in all areas of your mental life; as in achieving a balance in your relationships, your business, your spiritual and your career.

“It is essential to balance the mind and the body,” I informed a client at the beginning of the second coaching session. “You can’t have one without the other; they compliment each other.”

Far too many people focus their efforts on improving their mental patterns and behaviour, and neglect another important part of their success, and that is their body.

An enriched body, enhanced through exercise, creates a stronger essence within you, makes you feel better about yourself and increases your self-confidence. And the great added advantage is that it reduces stress by as much as 65%.

By simply exercising moderately 3 or 4 times a week you gain all of the above benefits, and more importantly you get rid of that ‘dream crusher’ called stress.

When you reap all of these benefits you will have a strong sense of physical and mental balance that will carry you forward in achieving your desires in your life.

Likewise, coaching is about stepping up in all areas of your life to create a balanced approach to life.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

At times, I am amazed at how actors can skip from one role to another – from a fantasy comedy character to a vicious gang leader – and they seem to step into the relevant characters with ease.

At least that’s how it appears to us. Although, in reality, they probably practised each role for as long as it took until it became second nature to them.

I believe that everyone has a dream, or a desire, that they want to accomplish in life. Some do not achieve their dreams because they perceive them to be unachievable, others start down the road of actualisation, but have the tendency to quit somewhere down the winding road, especially when they face a few setbacks or run into barriers along the way.

Firstly, no realistic dream is unachievable. Secondly, setbacks can be challenged and learned from, and barriers can be removed.

A client of ours, a highly successful marketing executive, had long dreamed of sitting in the director’s chair. The dream had remained on the starting block for years, until one day he grew tired of the long wait, and had decided that he would learn all that he could about that role, and even go one step further; he would take on the part and act as if he is successfully living his dream as the marketing director.

To play the part more convincingly and appropriately, he felt he required the impetus from a qualified coach: one who would support him and explore with him all the available resources in finding the most suitable script for the part, by allowing him to broaden his scope of thinking and learning, to be confident in his new character in preparation for its actualisation.

If you were to choose a movie, a dream, that you would like to play the lead role in, what character would you like to act?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

All great leaders have one particular great quality that, perhaps, stands out further than the others, and that is: they all have a vision. Their vision could vary and be as wide spread as from leading a company expansion or merger to creating a happy home environment.

A CEO from a well-established company has lead the expansion of his own company three times within a few years of its establishment. Yet he constantly faced a lack of leadership in his ability to create magic moments with his two young children.

On his way home, after our third and most mind-storming session, a thought suddenly came to him. He immediately put down the newspaper and reflected on that thought: I learned to be a leader because I was quick to realise and accept that every challenge had presented me with an opportunity to grow.

From that moment, a personal vision came to effect. And that was to commit to lead and spend at least one high quality hour with his children every night, no matter what.

If you were to take the lead to improve on the quality of your life, what one action are you prepared to commit to for the coming three months?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

“You are so negative. Why not try being positive and appreciative just for once in your life?” cried a disgruntled executive as she glared across her Managing Director’s wide desk. Then she turned on her heels and sternly walked out of his office, feeling proud of herself.

As he outlined this event to me a few days later, I could clearly see that he was taken aback by her reaction. He never considered himself to be a negative person whether at work or at home. And he certainly thought he appreciated his staff.

I asked him to carry a notebook with him at all times, and to always make sure it was visible to him; to serve as a reminder to note down any time he felt or said anything negative. For this inventory to be effective, he was to include a weekend day.

At our next session, we tallied up his negative thoughts; they were, to his surprise, rather high. Now that he became aware of that, the next step was to eliminate them. As soon as a negative thought came to mind, he was to stop it and turn it into a positive statement. If he cannot think of one, he could turn the negative into an appreciative thought.

When you notice you are having a negative thought, one powerful method to stop and counter that is to say, “CANCEL THAT”, to yourself or out loud. Another method is to wear a rubber band on your wrist, and when you become aware of that negativity creeping in, snap that rubber band. The sting will divert your thoughts from that negative thinking, and you can turn that interception into a positive or appreciative thought.

If you were to catch yourself thinking, or talking, negatively about someone or a situation, what tool would you use to put an immediate halt to that negative thought?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

We all want the best for our children. We want them to be the top in their class, to be the best in sports, to have the best jobs and to live a happy and successful life.

To play our part in preparing our children, as they grow into young adults and beyond, it is important that we always remember to keep their best interest at hand. And we do this by keeping a keen eye on what they are good at and what they enjoy doing.

A very open-minded and joyful company director one day realised that his seven year old son really enjoys putting things together. He would confidently and happily spend hours in his world of creativity.

This man accepted that it was his responsibility, as a father, to expand on the boy’s interest. Yet he was unsure how to encourage him without the boy thinking that his dad was interfering or pressuring him, resulting in the boy losing interest.

By working closely with a coach the father decided that he would indirectly build on that creative confidence. And then he would use that stack to expand on his son’s ability to succeed in other areas in his own way.

If you want to build greater confidence in your children, in a way that they feel that they had gained that extra spurt on their own, how would you plan to achieve it?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the FREE sample of the e-book Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.