Confidence Blog

Capture that winning feeling of confidence and success as many times as you can as you go about your day. Those feelings can be due to small or short-term successes. There is no rule that says for anything to be a success it has to be something big or long-term.

Success is success! That’s how your mind sees it. Period. Make it your role daily to feed success after success to your sponge of a mind. And as surely as a seed grows into a plant, you will grow more confident after each seed that you plant.

Take advantage of all short-term victories. Make the most of short-term successes particularly when you are feeling pessimistic or insecure about your future. Remind yourself and profit from past successes to lift you and to regain that confident feeling from deep within.

I am pretty sure you have daily short-term successes that you can be proud of. Think back on them and stimulate and recreate that winning feeling again. Use that surge to fuel you to the next success, confidently and with power.

Perhaps you could spend a few days to write down as many successes as you can, and write down how confident you felt having achieved those successes. Focus on how you communicated with confidence, on how you psyched yourself up to increase on your confidence prior to and during the event.

Write as much as you can on how fantastic and strong and confident you felt for having achieved such an accomplishment. As you write you recapture that winning feeling, the pride, the confidence and the satisfaction.

A winning feeling is a confident feeling, one that reinforces success.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

Yes. Getting what you want is success.

What you want doesn’t have to be a big yacht, a Ferrari, or a luxury cruise around the world. Success can be saving enough money to go on a summer holiday, to buy yourself a bicycle, to see your child participate in a school play, to make a big sale, to meet your budget or target.

That is success. I see success as communicating with confidence.

When you communicate with confidence you have a great, happy and adventurous summer vacation. You communicate infectious confidence when your child is on stage in a school play, you communicate and radiate confidence when you make that sales presentation.

Success is within you. Success in life is becoming what you want to be, and you can become what you want to be. Let confidence take the lead role in getting you what it is that you want. Start off by becoming a great communicator.

Practise communicating with confidence. Begin by talking more to people you know and progress to talking to people you don’t know at all. In no time, you will easily, happily and confidently approach any one. You will strike up a conversation comfortably and confidently.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

Your body says a whole lot of things: it states what you are thinking to how you are feeling, and you stand, sit, act and behave your thoughts and feelings. Your body speaks to others your inner judgments and beliefs about yourself in any given moment, including how confident you think and feel you are.

You communicate with your body, your posture.

When you stand tall you portray an aura of confidence, self-assurance. You are telling the world that you are full of confidence, assertion. You believe in your confidence and you communicate that with your being.

Having an upright posture quickly gives the impression that you are confident; your body exposes and communicates that to those around you.

By the way, even if you don’t feel confident in the moment, simply by taking on the ‘standing tall’ posture, you communicate confidence not just to those around you, but to you as well. The feeling of confidence will spread within your body, making you feel and radiate confidence.

Your straight posture gives you added confidence.

Give it a try. Straighten your back and lift your head up, smile and feel and radiate confidence. Communicate to all those around you that you are confident.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

Do you know in what areas and situations you lack self confidence?

Have you ever sat down and asked yourself what makes you feel uneasy and uncomfortable?

Does the idea of attending social events make you feel anxious or nervous? Does the thought of making a presentation make you feel tense or uptight?

Identifying the areas and situations that give you those feelings is very useful and beneficial to you.

I believe the primary reason for these nerve-racking feelings is because you lack self confidence in yourself. The perturbed or edgy, troubled or uncomfortable gut reactions are ways that your unconscious mind tells you that you are short of self confidence in these situations.

For you to have more self confidence at a party where you don’t know many people, for example, breathe in deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth and then immediately head towards someone, anyone, and quickly introduce yourself. Then ask that person’s name followed by a question about themselves.

By taking a couple of deep breaths you regain focus, self confidence and control of your emotions.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

One very effective way for you to increase your self confidence is to first identify what is holding you back. Is it fear of failure, fear of rejection?

The second step is for you find ways to physically feel that fear, even in small ways. Go through the motions; the nervousness, the shaky hands, the thousands of butterflies flying around in your stomach. Get uncomfortable!

A client of Natalie wanted to set up a business selling conference space. He had extensive hotel conference and banqueting experience behind him, yet when it came for him to venture out alone, many fears and anxieties had surfaced.

Natalie’s suggestion was for him to tackle one fear one step at a time, no matter how big or small it may seem at the time. And to work on it until that fear had become either a thing of the past or it had been reduced to a point where it is virtually insignificant.

For him to increase his confidence he had to take risks. He had to experience the blocks, the fears one by one. This way he would gain more skill, knowledge and develop his strengths and, more importantly, increase his self confidence.

You can increase your self confidence by focusing on what you fear, and then overcome that fear. Have belief that you can succeed and push ahead. The fears that crop up along the way are fabulous opportunities to gain more strength and increase your confidence level.

If you want to start up a business, as in the example above, but are scared to do so, identify what fears are standing in your way and tackle them one by one. Remember to praise yourself along the way for having the courage to face those fears and anxieties, and reward yourself for every increment, for every increase to your self confidence.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.