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“I have set myself a goal to read more about becoming a better salesperson,” said Tom, a salesman for a car dealership. “I want to read at least one book a month. The only thing is I sometimes miss a day here and there for one reason or another.”

For you to create a new habit and to follow through with your goal, you have to resist temptation. Refrain from watching a programme on TV, keep away from socialising with friends – at least until your objective for the day has been met.

Should you fall prey to persuasion, it is not the end of the world. The thing is, though, you have side-stepped your daily goal, and once you have done that the likelihood of you doing it again increases.

By not sticking to your daily objective you will find that you are not fully committing yourself to your goal. Avoid going astray and stay focused on your goal. Remain committed and do not give in to temptation.

If you find you are not committing yourself to the goal you set, go back to the drawing board and be true to yourself. Maybe your goal was unrealistic to start off with, or perhaps your belief in that goal was not strong enough.

Resist temptation by focusing on the benefits you will gain from your goal, and imagine how your life will change for the better. Realise the power of purpose behind your goal.

Avert from being lured away from your goal.

What do you do regularly that doesn’t support you when pursuing your daily objective?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

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One of my friends made it her three month goal to get a story published in a reputable ladies’ magazine. “So I went ahead and sent my story to a couple of magazines. The most they could say is no, and I can hopefully learn from them why my story did not get accepted,” she laughed almost spilling the coffee on her short beige skirt.

Over dinner, my mind wondered back to our conversation. I rested my chin over my clasped hands and thought in silence.

Most beginnings in anything in life start by taking small, even minute steps. The smallest action does have the potential to lead to success.

The initial, small action can be the most important first step in the development of a goal.

Everything in life has a beginning, a middle and an end. And daily action, tiny or massive, is what carries you from one phase to the next.

Large actions could have you arrive at your destination quicker, but you if you don’t feel comfortable to take that approach, as in the above client, go ahead and take smaller actions. You will still realise your goal.

What idea do you have that you can take small action on to get you closer to your goal?

By the way, she managed to publish a short story in one of the weekly publications!

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Download our condensed free sample e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps” Right Now.

There seems to be a lot of people who take great pleasure in failing other unsuspecting colleagues, in watching them feel the pain and sorrow of not succeeding in particular tasks; of leaving them with feelings that they are a failure.

This is more evident amongst peers when in contact with employees down the chain. There seems to be a certain level of enjoyment in putting employees down at every opportunity, particularly after the employee was unable to accomplish a given task.

By using harsh negative language, a deeper sense of failure is reinforced within the employee. This reaction reduces the individual’s willingness and ability to strive for success, to achieve the required task. It moves him further away because he feels incompetent, a failure. And not enthused to wholeheartedly accomplish the task.

Is this hierarchic behaviour fuelled by fear, competition, a sense of threat by another? Or is it a lusty need for power?

People will appreciate and respect you more when you give positive feedback using encouraging language. Through the power of inspiring words, employees will be more motivated to be a valuable part of the team, and this fires in them the drive to bring about greater and mutual success.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Download our condensed free sample e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps” Right Now.

A few people go to the gym regularly to work out and keep fit. Some might find it boring to keep to the same routine three or more times per week. Others might find it boring to run on the treadmill for an hour or so every day, or to swim so many lengths, or to brisk walk.

A small percentage change the routine to influx some excitement, inspiration and challenge. However, most of us stick to the same routine. We realise the importance of exercising the body, whether boring or not.

Many also understand the importance of maintaining regular exercise in the long term. If we stop exercising our muscles atrophy; in time the firmness fades. All the hard work at the gym becomes fruitless. We need to keep exercising to keep the muscles firm and toned.

The same can be said of our brain: it behaves just like a muscle. It, too, needs to be exercised. If it is not exercised enough, it will also atrophy; its abilities will decline.

To keep the brain healthy, it must be challenged regularly. And you do so by reading books and magazines, by mingling with successful or confident people.

Attend seminars and workshops, go to evening classes, do crossword puzzles, play Trivia, and so on.

Keep your brain alive.

If you were to constantly challenge your brain to keep it healthy and in good condition, what activity would you do?

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Download our condensed free sample e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps” Right Now.

�You can achieve virtually anything you want,� I said to a middle aged person one day over a Cappuccino.

�I wish that�s true,� he mumbled under his breath, wiping the foam from his upper lip. �You see,� he started to justify his excuses. �My job gets in the way. I work long hours, and by the time I get home I just want to sit and relax in front of the TV.�

That is a very common response. People want to get ahead in their lives, yet they find it much easier to blame the environment for where they are at.

They prefer to live their lives reactively, moving from one excuse to another, acting as victims to circumstances, achieving nothing major in life.

There is, however, a different way that they can see the world; a way that allows them to take full control of their lives and accomplish their yearnings.

They do so by accepting personal responsibility for the life that they are living and the life that they want.

People are responsible for what happens in their lives. By taking that approach on board, in all areas of their lives, they will make the choices and decisions that reflect that responsibility to head them in the direction that they desire.

Abandon the concept of blame and adopt the responsibility belief.

Accept responsibility and take charge of your life.

Hani Al-Qasem

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book �Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.�

Download our free sample e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps� Right Now.